My first full-time job was at a domestic violence non-profit where I was surrounded by social workers. The job had actually started as an internship that developed into part-time and then eventually full-time. From pretty early on, I knew that I didn’t want to be a social worker. I loved the work I was doing and I planned to do it for as long as I could.
Eventually, however, I knew I wanted to write. This job that I loved was not a great résumé position for someone who wanted to maybe work for a magazine or in the fashion industry. If I’m being totally honest, this blog was often a way to fill my résumé with things that I knew my job did not. In this space I showed that I could not only write about fashion and trends, and write well, but also that I could do it consistently and without anyone telling me to. Blogging was a hobby that didn’t earn me any money directly, but I knew that having this blog would ultimately lead to the career path I wanted. Thanks to my blogging, I now have my dream job doing something I’m so excited to do every day. (Read more about my job transition here.)
On top of the résumé reasons, blogging filled a creative need in my life. I could not have survived that non-profit job without the creative outlet blogging provided. I made balance in my life where there wasn’t balance organically. I forged a path that wasn’t given to me by anyone else. You don’t have to wait for anyone to give you permission to pursue your passions, and you don’t have to wait for balance to just appear in your life.
A few years into blogging and the work force, I started to feel like something was missing again. I needed another outlet. I also wanted something that Dago and I could do together. For those of you who are new-er around here, you may not know that I have a weekly podcast with my boyfriend called Breakfast for Dinner. We talk about pop culture, television, feminism, music, and other things that affect our lives. Dago and I happen to both have the same love language: quality time. Doing the podcast together gives us an opportunity to spend lots of time talking about interesting, sometimes important, sometimes hilarious topics as we put the show together and record each week.
This weekend Dago and I were talking about our podcast origin. We realized that one of the reasons our show works so well is because we didn’t spend a lot of time making a business plan first or researching the best equipment. We just found a mic and started recording one day, figuring it out as we go. We didn’t wait for someone to tell us we were ready, or even good. We both needed this outlet in order to have a sense of togetherness and balance in our lives, so we went for it.
I’ve recently been asked about how I maintain a creative life. I do so by listening to what my soul needs, whether it’s a passion that needs to be fulfilled or a state of mind that needs to be shifted. I don’t wait for anyone to tell me I deserve balance or I’m good enough to pursue something I want. I’m busy, but I’m happy to be spending my time doing the things I love, and I get to make my schedule for all non-work related things because I’m the boss.
And you are the boss of your life! You get to decide what you want to do and you can make balance in your life without having to wait to find it.
So what’s next for you? What can you do to make your life more balanced?