If I were being completely honest with both you and myself, my grown up goal for the month would be to go into hibernation for the next 30+ days. But is that very grown up of me? To hide-sleep until things get a little easier?
After a lot of thought (because coming up with these grown up goals every month is hard!), I knew what I needed to focus on this month. If October was about reaching for stability, then November is about striking a balance. At this point, I have all the things on my plate that make grown up-hood work–a job that I love, a steady and decent paycheck, stimulating hobbies, a social life, and a healthy relationship*–but I’ve found myself drowning a little bit in trying to prioritize them all.
My new job, which I haven’t talked about much here on the blog, is more of the same of what I was doing before, but harder times about 50%. I love what I do, I love helping people, I love validating, I love connecting people to resources. I am so thankful for my position and my agency, truly. However, adjusting to full-time hours, with an increased volume of crisis situations, has really taken a toll on my wellness. It took about two weeks for me to stop “taking my work home with me.” When I do get home around 7:30, I feel like it’s already nighttime and I should just get ready for bed. No blogging, no social times. I feel like I need to spend as much time possible winding down and re-energizing for the next day.
During my workday, I used to have lots of time to blog, window shop, and post to social media. Just while writing this post alone, I’ve had to stop seven or eight times to, ya know, do actual work. This isn’t awful or anything, but it has made me a little unmotivated to blog, which isn’t a fun feeling. I know myself well enough to know that I need this outlet in order to continue doing my best at all the other things I do, plus I enjoy writing and sharing in this space. I just have to find the time, motivation, and inspiration to do it.
At Texas Style Council this summer, Julie of Orchid Grey led an awesome workshop on Work + Life + Blog Balance. One of the very first things she said was to ditch the word balance; “your seesaw will never be 100% level,” she said. Instead, Julie recommends substituting in the word “fit.” Rather than trying to give equal parts of myself to everything, I have to find a way to fit all the things I love and need to survive happily into a routine that works. For instance, I’ve already figured out about what time I need to take a break at work to do my outfit photos (ahem, until the darn time change…), but now I need to schedule the time to actually write the posts. For podcasting, I can’t just show up on Friday evening and start talking, I need to have read the articles and thought of some talking points so that I don’t leave Dago with stale air.
In October, I was full of inspiration and didn’t even have to do an editorial calendar because I was spewing out posts left and right. I have to accept that not every month is going to be this way, and I need to spend some time crafting my content for the month. I owe it to my readers, and I owe it to myself.
You know what else I owe myself? Brunch with the girls. Going out for drinks after work. Date night. Just because I leave work when it’s dark outside doesn’t mean I can’t go play for a few hours and enjoy the company of good friends. Dago has pretty much only seen me in pajamas since starting this job because he leaves before me in the morning, and, as soon as I get home, I go straight for the cozy clothes. I want to get all dressed up and go out to dinner! So I have to find a way to fit that in.
Do you have any master time management tips? What are you going to focus on this month to make November a little easier?