Caitlin, a lovely writer friend of mine has started a new series on her blog asking fellow creatives to answer an edited down version of the Proust Questionnaire. Since I filled it out for fun, I thought I’d give my own answers over here. I’ve always enjoyed the task of answering surveys, especially personal ones. Some of my favorite questions to contemplate are the 10 Questions asked by James Lipton at the end of each episode of Inside the Actor’s Studio, which are actually based on the Proust Questionnaire. Seeing as I’ve answered and re-answered those questions countless times over the years, I eagerly took on the new questions. Without further ado…
What is your idea of perfect happiness?
Barefoot in freshly-cut grass, 93°, pretty sundress and a good hair day.
What is your greatest fear?
Having my blood sucked by leeches or bed bugs.
Which historical figure do you most identify with?
What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?
My quickly hurt feelings.
What is the trait you most deplore in others?
What do you consider the most overrated virtue?
On what occasion do you lie?
When I know I’m not speaking my truth into a safe space.
What do you dislike most about your appearance?
My face is generally crooked. One side has upward-facing features and the other has significantly (to me) downward-facing.
Which living person do you most despise?
Chris Brown. I realize saying this gives him too much credit, but everything about him makes my skin crawl.
Which words or phrases do you most overuse?
Best ever/worst ever.
What is your greatest regret?
Two specific instances of judgement out of ignorance in my past.
What is your current state of mind?
Thoughtful, a little anxious.
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
My inability to let go physically. I would love to practice yoga and dance, but I’m absolutely paralyzed with fear.
If you could change one thing about your family, what would it be?
The volume of our voices when trying to be heard.
What do you consider your greatest achievement?
My relationship with Dago is incredibly healthy. I’m thankful every day for a partner who values that as much as I do.
If you were to die and come back as a person or thing, what do you think it would be?
Someone who remembered to water plants and hosted perfect parties.
What is your most treasured possession?
The teddy bear I bought myself in high school after a relationship ended. I wanted to never have to depend on a relationship for a special stuffed animal. His name is Lionel Rupert.
What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery?
When one human’s body is violated by another human.
What is your most marked characteristic?
My frequent compliment giving.
What is the quality you most like in a man?
Humility. (Keeping Caitlin’s answer because I couldn’t agree more.)
What is the quality you most like in a woman?
What do you most value in your friends?
Compassion and loyalty.
How would you like to die?
I don’t care how I die, but I don’t want my loved ones to have to find out abruptly or not know that I’ve died.
What is your motto?
Validation is the most empowering thing you can give someone.
I encourage you to answer the questionnaire yourself! Don’t forget to link me to it so I can learn more about you.